See. Find the fear.
How to make more.
Fear caps your income. Before you change anything, you need to know which fear is talking, and whose it is. Most of it came in through a part of your design you rent.
It doesn’t feel like fear. It feels like a fact.
Not deep enough to charge. Not ready to post. Too responsible to say no. You’d never call any of it fear. You’d call it being sensible.
So you take another course, redraft the sales page, and wait for a better moment.
It isn’t sensible. It’s fear with good manners. And most of the time, it isn’t even yours.
Three fears. Three places.
The Spleen.
Fear in the moment: not good enough, not deep enough, not safe. It speaks once, quietly, then gets out of the way. If it keeps talking, it’s something else.
The Solar Plexus.
Dread about later: what it’ll cost, how it ends. It rides your mood, so it’s loud at the bottom and gone at the top.
The Ajna.
Anxiety about certainty. The mind that needs to be sure before you move, and hands you an answer at 2am to make the feeling stop.
The fear map.
Which fears are running which part of your life, and which ones you can hand back.
A real fear lasts seconds. Everything after that is something else.
Alex Darby
How you earn
The fear that’s been capping your income.
How you’re seen
What’s behind the avoidance.
Who you let in
The fear your relationships keep reflecting.
How your body copes
Where it lands at 2am.
What’s yours
Which fears you own, and which you’ve been renting.
Fear. Avoid. Mirror. Energy.
Everything you’re trying to work out lives in four places: how to make more, how to be seen, how to relate better, and the energy to repeat it. You start with whichever is loudest, and every one is looking for the same thing: the ME inside.
Ready to find yours?
The Design Edit gives you the plan. The Design Brief gives you the full picture.